Thinking is Not a Problem. Obsessive Thinking is a Problem.  Thinking is not a problem. It is a useful process that helps us make sense of the world around us. Thinking helps us reason, solve problems, make decisions, and understand the relationship between two things. Thought produces more thoughts that create stories. We all have stories, good ones and not so good ones. Below is a story of how thinking can become a problem. Sarah is not
WHAT GAME ARE WE PLAYING? Consistency and certainty are conditions we all love. Even those of us who identify as highly spontaneous need some level of stability in life. Certainty is a core human need. One could say uncertainty shakes us to our core, because it does. We invest a great deal of time and energy trying to plan for the future because we want to know what is further down the road. We want
In general terms, therapy or counseling is defined as treatment for a wide variety of mental health problems. I know, that’s pretty vague so I will tell you what I mean when I say therapy. Therapy is something you can do when you need extra help handling life’s challenges. I see clients who suffer from stress and anxiety disorders but, more often than not, I see people who want to improve their lives in some way. They
WHY RELATIONSHIP CUTOFF DOESN’T WORK. There is a concept in Family Systems Theory called Emotional Cutoff (Murray Bowen’s Eight Concepts) which describes the way people manage unresolved family issues by reducing contact with one or more members or totally cutting off emotional contact with them. To manage overwhelming stress and tension in families, people look for ways to make interactions “easier” by using emotional cutoff. There are several ways this can play out including: avoiding
How Unconscious Strategies Manifest to Preserve Security There are many inspiring stories out there about people who started out with very little and became successful later in life. It is encouraging to hear or read those stories because it reminds us of how humans can overcome the greatest of obstacles and not just survive but thrive. Ultimately, becoming successful does not come without its challenges. You don’t become successful and that’s it; you’ve made it.