The Reason Why Competition Can Feel Icky. My clients often talk about the culture of competition at work. The pressure to “get ahead” often leads to a practice of negatively comparing oneself to others. They also say they find themselves exerting an undesirable amount of effort trying to be like someone else. When I was a teen, I had a close friend who seemed to always want to compete with me in every way; sports,

Grieving. One Of The Only Things You Can Do When You Experience Loss. I know exactly who you are when you walk into my office. Your body language and forced smiles are a perfect match to the grieving person I spoke to on the phone. Getting started in session can be difficult because you’re not sure where to begin to describe how you are feeling. With support, you begin by telling me that for the

Do you occasionally put effort into pleasing others? I think we all do to some extent. We usually expect some mutual benefit and doing things for others can feel good. On the other hand, some of us spend WAY too much time and effort in doing this. Now we are talking about a pattern of pleasing behaviors. Could this be you? Have you noticed that people respond to you one way at first and differently

Relax, I’m not going to suggest you get rid of that coffee cup. If I did, most of you would stop reading. Our work spaces are expressions of ourselves and “the desk” is usually the focal point. There are many types of desks. There is the very commonly recognized L-shaped desk usually made of steel, you know, the one you bang your knee on at least once a day. There is also the stately”executive”desk; the

I like to take pictures of the sky. It always fascinates me how I can look up and sometimes perfectly predict what the weather will be and, other times, be way off. During the past several days, my area in Texas has experienced: fog, rain, sun, thunderstorms, wind, hail, tornado warnings, 30 degree temps, 80 degree temps, and drop-dead-gorgeous moderate temps. Native Texans are used to this kind of thing; sort of. We laugh and